An Evening with Don Miguel Ruiz

14 Oct

Last week, I traveled to Austin, Texas and had the great honor of spending “An Evening with Don Miguel Ruiz.”

Don Miguel comes from a long line of Toltec Indian Shamans and Healers originating in Southern Mexico.  His family anticipated Don Miguel would embrace their centuries old legacy of healing and teaching as a Shaman to carry on the esoteric Toltec knowledge.  Instead, distracted by modern life, Don Miguel chose to attend medical school and later teach and practice as a surgeon.   However, after a car accident he decided to return to his roots, sharing his native wisdom with everyone he met.  He especially enjoyed sharing his culture orally through the use of story-telling.  Soon, he began to write books.

In the tradition of the Toltec, Shamans guide individuals to personal freedom.  Combining new insights with old wisdom, Don Miguel has dedicated his life to sharing ancient Toltec wisdom by translating it into practical concepts that promote transformation through truth and common sense.  In fact, this is how I came to know Don Miguel Ruiz.  My life began changing in the most extraordinary ways when I read his book, “The Four Agreements.”

In “The Four Agreements”, Don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering.  Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, “The Four Agreements” offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness and love.


1.  Be Impeccable With Your Word:  Speak with integrity.  Say only what you really mean.  Avoid using your words to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Words have incredible power so use them wisely in the direction of love and truth.  It is this 1st agreement that inspired my column” Be Impeccable With Your Words.”

2.  Don’t Take Anything Personally:Nothing others do is because of you.   When someone says anything about you, it is a projection of their own reality, their personal perspective.  By not internalizing other people’s opinions, you become immune to their judgements and actions.  By relieving yourself of the heavy burden of taking things personally, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

“When you refuse to take things personally, you avoid many upsets in your life.  Your feelings of anger, jealousy – and even your sadness – will simply disappear if you don’t take things personally.”  ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

 3.  Don’t Make Assumptions:  Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. It’s so much easier to just “ask” than to assume without understanding.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

 4.  Always Do Your Best:  Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick, tired as opposed to well-rested and stressed as opposed to relaxed.  Be kind to yourself and remember that your best is going to vary from day-to-day and that it’s not something to hold against yourself.  Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Don Miguel closed our groups meeting with a story about surviving a near-fatal heart attack in 2002.  He went on to explain how he was in a coma for 9 weeks and since he woke up he realized that he wants everyday of his life to be a romance.  He loves life so passionately that he told his children so long as he lived he chose to romance his life, living his own way.  Certainly he has suffered greatly since his heart only operates in a limited capacity.  But he was hopeful, declaring “I am on a heart transplant list.  If they should find a heart my match, they will fly me to Los Angeles.. and if I wake up, I wake up.  If I don’t, I don’t.  Either way is fine since I live my life fully in every moment.”

I’m happy to report that a new heart beats in the chest of Don Miguel Ruiz.  A heart of his match became available that very night (10.07.10) and he was flown to Los Angeles for the surgery.  He is resting well in recovery now.

I am so looking forward to seeing him again as soon as he is well enough to return to Texas.

5 Responses to “An Evening with Don Miguel Ruiz”

  1. SpiritualNurse October 14, 2010 at 9:02 am #

    Awesome news!! How wonderful for Don Miguel, for his family, and for us! Miracles abound this month ❤



    • Lynn Van Noy October 14, 2010 at 9:07 am #

      Indeed! It was the most profound surprise & wonder. I met him the last night he had his broken heart & I can’t wait to meet him with his new heart!


  2. Julia Guthrie October 14, 2010 at 2:04 pm #

    What an inspirational man, must be so awesome to meet him! 🙂 xx


    • Lynn Van Noy October 14, 2010 at 3:18 pm #

      Y’know, when I first read “The Four Agreements” back in the mid-1990’s, I thought this information must have come from someone long ago, someone with wisdom so deep that it runs far ahead of time & far into our history. Being with him in person made me feel like we were ancient & standing in a place out of time, entirely. Paradise.



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